Tale Signs of a Cheating Mate
C.R. "Bob" Brown
following is a guide to help you determine if your mate is cheating
on you. After reading this list you may find there are some areas of
concern. Do not confront the cheater. This will only cause them to clean
up their act and make it more difficult for you to catch them. You may
not have enough proof to make your case. I would urge you to seek professional
signs to look for to determine whether or not someone is having an affair
the beginning of an affair the mate that is cheating is usually
more attentive to their spouse. This is due to guilt that the cheater
may be feeling at the time.
the affair has been going on for a while the person cheating seems
to find fault with the person he/she may be living with to try and
justify the affair in their mind.
spouses may lose interest in the activities in the home. They don't
show interest in the livelihood of you or the children that live
in the home. Nor do they have any desire to do any fix-ups to the
home (i.e.- lawn care, house repairs, etc...).
(gut feeling) that something is not right usually is a sign you
may have a cheating problem. "When in doubt, check it out".
may have a change in sex life (i.e.- more or less sex) as well as
unexplained sexual requests.
cheater has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the
home, especially the mate (i.e.- if he/she didn't act the way they
do, then maybe I wouldn't be doing the things I do).
sign is "Finances". "If someone wants to play, they need to pay",
therefore keeping an eye on their moneys (i.e.- check stubs, bank
accounts balances, credit card bills, etc..) would tell you whether
they've spent more money than usual
habits will change. Cheaters will be more attentive to their person
(i.e.- the way they dress, frequent bathing, especially females
will bathe before going out and upon return, physical fitness, grooming
of their hair, switching of perfumes, etc..).
of colognes/perfumes on shirt/blouse
new undergarments when going out
stains in underwear
numbers on pieces of paper that are unexplained
or other birth control devices
on vehicle, time they leave and return from work, paycheck stubs
to confirm hours.
home telephone calls for odd behavior (ie-whispering or abrupt hang-ups).
on Internet and in private chat lines
phone conversations and cell phone bills (calls to the same number
over and over without explanation)
tend to have a "glow" about them when having an affair.
"Bob" Brown, Author of "Investigations- Doing it My Way", has
been working and dealing with "domestic" related cases since 1966. He
has received the "Lifetime Achievement Award" for his excellence in
domestic issues from the National Association of Investigative Specialists.
PI Magazine listed him as one of the top ten investigators in