- Tell Tale Signs of A
- By C.R. "Bob" Brown
- Master Investigator
- The following is a guide to help you determine if your mate is cheating
on you. After reading this list you may find there is some area of concern.
Do not confront the cheater. This will only cause them to clean up their
act and make it more difficult for you to catch them. You may not have
enough proof to make your case. I would urge you to seek professional help.
- * At the beginning of an affair
the mate that is cheating is more attentive to his spouse. This is due
to guilt that the cheater may be feeling at the time.
- * After the affair has been going
on for a while the person cheating seems to find fault with the person
he/she may be living with to try to justify the affair in their mind.
- * Cheating spouses may lose attention
in the activities in the home. They don't show interest in the livelihood
of you or the children that live in the home. Nor do they have any desires
to do any fix-ups to the home (i.e. lawn care, house repairs, etc.....)
- * Intuition (gut feeling) that
something is not right usually is a sign you may have a cheating problem
"when in doubt check them out".
- * Cheaters may have a change in
sex life (i.e. more sex, less sex) as well as unexplained sexual requests.
- * The cheater has a definite change
in attitude towards everyone in the home, especially the mate (i.e. if
he/she didn't act the way they do, well then maybe I wouldn't be doing
the things I do).
- * Another sign is "Finances".
"If someone wants to play they have to pay" therefore keeping
an eye on their monies (i.e. check stubs, bank account balances, credit
card bills, etc...) would tell you whether their spending more money than
- * Grooming habits will change.
Cheaters will be more attentive to their person (e.i. the way they dress,
frequent bathing, physical fitness, grooming of their hair, switching of
- * Physical signs to look for to
determine whether or not someone is having an affair is lipstick on the
collar, odors of cologne/perfume on a shirt/blouse, checking underwear
for secretion stains. You can also check their wallets and/or the glove
compartments of their car to see if they left receipts, pieces of paper
with phone numbers, addresses, condoms, etc.
- * You may want to monitor your
spouse for two weeks. During this time keep track of the mileage on their
car. Monitor the time they leave for work and the time they come home.
Keep a calendar and note the times, this should help you establish a pattern.
If your mate claims to be working late, check paycheck stubs to verify
- * Be tuned in to home telephone
calls when your mate has a tendency to whisper or gives a quick answer
and immediately hangs up or when you answer the telephone and get an abrupt
- * Many cheaters use cellular telephones
to communicate with their lovers. Should your mate have a cellular telephone
you may want to get a detailed billing of the calls made from the cellular
phone to determine whether a certain number has been frequently called.
A good area to start looking is for the first number called when your mate
first leaves for work and the same number called again right before they
- * Female cheaters are more discreet
in the selection of a lover . This is most likely because of their concern
of Sexually Transmitted Disease's (STD's). Most females are looking for
a longer lasting relationship rather than a "one night stand".
In past years men were the aggressors, in society today, with the increase
of women in the work force, women have become equally aggressive.
- * When a female is having an affair
she tends to have more of a "glow" about her.
- C.R. "Bob" Brown, has been working and dealing with thousands
of "domestic" related cases over the past 30 years. He recently
received the "Lifetime Achievement Award" for his excellence
in domestic cases from the National Association of Investigative Specialists.
- If you would like to schedule an appointment to speak with Mr. Brown,
please call him at Brown & associates, Inc. (407)275-1104 for "PEACE
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